If Oct. 7 hadn鈥檛 happened, Roni Eshel would have likely completed her IDF service and enrolled in a culinary school in New York. Eyal Eshel, her father, would have continued enjoying his life as a husband and a father of three, his career and his daily routine. But everything changed that day.
For on Oct. 7, Roni, an observation soldier in the IDF serving with the Border Defense Corps鈥 414th unit, was killed. Initially reported as missing, it was only on Nov. 9 that her death was confirmed. Since then, her bereaved father has tirelessly sought answers as to why his 19-year-old daughter had to die, but he has yet to receive any.
鈥淢any times, when Roni visited us at home, she would sit with us and express her concerns, saying that the situation wasn鈥檛 good and that no one was listening to the girls 鈥 they didn鈥檛 take what they said seriously,鈥 Eyal told The Journal. 鈥淚 used to reassure her, telling her that we have a strong and capable army that would protect us. Many times, I asked her for the phone numbers of her commanders, but she kept asking me not to embarrass her. Now, I torment myself for not insisting on getting those numbers.鈥
鈥淢any times, when Roni visited us at home, she would sit with us and express her concerns, saying that the situation wasn鈥檛 good.鈥 鈥 Eyal Eshel
Roni had been serving in the IDF for 14 months when tragedy struck. However, she saw it coming. She and her fellow lookout soldiers, whose job was monitoring the border, had noticed unusual activities in the months leading up to the attack and reported them to their commanders. Their concerns were largely dismissed, and they were even threatened with court-martial if they continued to raise such “trifles.”
According to Eyal, the commanders were well aware of the threat across the border and purposely didn鈥檛 want the observant to speak about it. Three days before Oct. 7, Roni visited her parents in Tzur Yitzhak, in central Israel, and again told them about what she saw at the border 鈥 Hamas terrorists preparing to breach the fence. 鈥淒ad, they are studying us,鈥 she told him. 鈥淭hey are doing their homework. They know almost all corners of the fence.鈥
On Oct. 7, at 9:27 a.m., Sharon Eshel, Roni鈥檚 mother, received a few texts from her daughter. Roni asked her not to worry, said she was okay and expressed her love.
These texts came three hours after she had witnessed Hamas terrorists running to the fence and breaking it down. 鈥淎ll stations receive, four people are running to the fence, confirm receipt. Two armed people are running at the fence, confirm receipt,鈥 Roni is heard saying in the radio.听
A few moments later, she transmitted another message: 鈥淥ne armed terrorist has crossed [the border], one armed terrorist, confirm receipt.鈥 And then: 鈥淭he 鈥楽and Timer鈥 fence has exploded. People have blown up the fence, confirm receipt. There is a hole in the fence, two people blew up the fence with a bomb. They are standing next to the hole; they haven鈥檛 crossed through it yet.鈥
In the final broadcast, she said: 鈥淭hree people are currently standing [inside Israel]. They are armed. Confirm receipt.鈥
She spoke rapidly but clearly. The scene playing in front of her eyes was what she had been dreading for months. Still, it鈥檚 difficult to guess if she actually thought they would take over her base, break into their safe room, kidnap seven surveillance soldiers and murder 16.
For the first month, the Eshel family believed that Roni had been kidnapped to Gaza. It took until Nov. 9 before they were informed by the IDF that she had been killed during the attack. 鈥淔rom the first days of the war, no one from the IDF had called to update us about what was happening. I have met with the Prime Minister, the head of the Shin Bet, the Minister of Defense, but I received no answers. I understood that I needed to conduct the investigation myself in order to understand what happened that Saturday,鈥 the bereaved father said. He established an investigation committee to determine who was responsible for the negligence that allowed Hamas attack on Israel.听
Over the past 11 months, he has visited the U.S., spoken before Congress and at the U.N., met with the mayor of New York City and given lectures in private homes. He has become somewhat of a celebrity. People stop him on the street, offer condolences and ask the questions he himself is still asking: 鈥淗ow did the IDF let it happen?鈥 鈥淲hy did it take the IDF so long to come to the rescue?鈥 鈥淲hy did nobody listen to the surveillance soldiers鈥 warnings?鈥
Even in Los Angeles, he is recognized. A few months ago, while walking on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, he was approached by a family on vacation from Canada. They expressed their sorrow for his unimaginable loss. It can be overwhelming, but Eyal takes the time to talk with everyone. He understands that people want to show their support and acknowledge his daughter鈥檚 bravery.
Usually, he travels to the U.S. alone, but this month, he came with his wife and two children, 14-year-old Alon and 18-year-old Yael, who is going to enlist in the IDF in two months. They have come for the Nova Festival exhibition, and Eyal is also the guest speaker at Beit Halochem events, where he tells his daughter鈥檚 story. He does this not only because he wants to honor Roni and her friends, but also because he wants to make a change in how things are handled.
鈥淥ct. 7 can happen again,鈥 he said. 鈥淚鈥檓 worried because we haven鈥檛 learned anything from what happened. The political and military ranks failed, and this resulted in what happened that Saturday. No one went home and no one was punished. This disregard [of the observant soldiers] started with previous girls who served in the IDF and were ignored as well. This is part of a failed organizational culture that currently exists in the army, and I am very sorry to say this, but that鈥檚 the truth 鈥 and it鈥檚 a painful one.鈥
Eyal and other bereaved parents demand that an investigation by a state committee be established so that failures can be recognized and corrected. 鈥淚f we don鈥檛 do that, we won鈥檛 know how to become a better country,鈥 he said. 鈥淚n the end, everything boils down to a message that must be passed on to today鈥檚 children, to the younger generation that live in this country. Today they are children, but soon enough, they will be soldiers and commanders in the IDF.鈥